
Therapy for Primary Ovarian Insufficiency (POI)
(also known as premature menopause)
You were just diagnosed with primary ovarian insufficiency (also known as premature menopause or primary ovarian failure).
You’re lost, and scared for what this means for the plans you had for your future. You can’t kick the thought that your body is broken. It feels like your life as you knew it is over.
To top it off, no one knows what to say to help.
No one even knew this was a thing that could happen.
How could you, a woman in her 20s or 30s, be menopausal?
Being diagnosed with Primary Ovarian Insufficiency (POI), is an overwhelming and isolating experience. You may feel like your body has betrayed you. You’re grieving not just your health but a future that now looks different than you expected. The loss of fertility and the uncertainty (not to mention the struggle to find doctors who don’t gaslight you), can leave you feeling unheard and alone.
I know how to help, because I’ve been here, too.
When I was 31, I decided that I wanted to see what my body felt like without birth control.
I wanted patiently for months for my body to recover and for my regular cycle to resume. After 6 months with no cycle in sight, and weird symptoms popping up seemingly out of nowhere, I started reaching out to doctors.
I had so many tests, and saw so many different providers. I left each office frustrated, with recommendations to “just go back on the pill, it’s not a big deal.” Or, “you’re young, it will just take more time for your cycle to jump start itself. Have you considered going back on the pill? It’s perfectly safe.”
After my seventh doctor, I finally found someone who listened, and ran the right tests. She gave me news I was not expecting: I, at 33 years old (yes, that is how long it took me to finally get a diagnosis), was menopausal.
If you’re anything like me, you can guess the thoughts that were running through my head. Things like: “how can this be possible? I’m 33!” And, “Does this mean I’m prematurely aging? Am I going to die young?” Or, “What do you mean the chances of me having biological kids is nearly 0%?” And, an old favorite and one that was particularly pesky: “My body is broken.”
