therapy for women
“I'm just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us.”
-The Barbie Movie
You did everything “right.” You got the job you worked hard for and found a partner that checks (some of) your boxes. You go to yoga, read all the self-help books, and even tried to have a 5a-9a before your 9a-5p. But you have nothing to show for it. You’re exhausted, burned out, anxious, depleted, and defeated.
You’re at your breaking point.
This isn’t what you expected life to feel like.
It’s not you. It’s society.
Women have been socially conditioned for - well, forever - to live up to ridiculous, contradictory expectations. These messages are implicit, but they teach us to be small, quiet, pleasant. To prioritize others before ourselves (god forbid we’re ‘selfish’). We are meant to be seen, but not heard.
These expectations aren’t placed on men.
Men are taught to be resilient. Women are taught to be perfectionists. Men are taught to take up space and make noise. Women are taught to take up as little space as possible. Men are revered for having “dad bods.” Women have to be skinny, but still have curves. Men get to be assertive and set boundaries, but if a woman does the same thing she is called a bitch. Men get to come home from work and relax, while women are expected to work a full-time job, do the majority of the housework, cook dinner, and raise the kids. Women are responsible for the emotional labor. Men get to have hobbies. Men are allowed and encouraged to enjoy sex. Women get slut-shamed.
Men are encouraged to be selfish. Women are forced to be selfless.
The psychological impact of this is insane. Women are more burned out than ever. Rates of depression and anxiety are statistically through the roof. Social conditioning molds women into little boxes of people-pleasing perfectionists, who then blame themselves for their inability to set a boundary or assert themselves.
my solution
It’s time to reject social conditioning. and take up some space.
I can teach you all of the big and small ways that social conditioning is impacting your mental health. I will hear your story, and help you dissect the messages you’ve received throughout your life about who you should be. I will teach you how these messages are designed to turn you into a person who doesn’t know how to have needs, let alone express them.
I will hold your hand as we re-write your story, so you can learn who you are without all the nasty messaging. Along the way you will learn self-compassion, quiet your mind, overcome anxiety, prioritize your own needs, and start setting boundaries for the first time in your life.
“You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It's too hard! It's too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.
— The Barbie Movie
You deserve to take up space. I can help.
Nothing changes if nothing changes. Let’s talk.